Living in the First Person

Mar 25
2 min read

A Challenge Answer the 50 +

One day you realize you've built your life on supporting others and neglected yourself; your life flashes before your eyes, events come flooding back, and you begin to piece together the puzzle. The victim mentality may linger for a while as you recover and find yourself, finding the courage to live life to the fullest.

What do we face when we reach this age? Sometimes it finds us with stern wind or unbalanced in some more relevant areas: health, economy, relationships and, above all, our inner evolution. Today I look back from my reality of almost 8 years of singleness and 5 years of children away from home.

When there is a divorce at 50, after years of living together, there are two paths: for some it is mandatory to start again; for others it is a priority to take care of their pole on the ground: their children and their professional occupation. In this second path, we are assuming in parallel the new life that is ahead.

Precisely at this point, challenges arise that we did not see coming: that insecurity when deciding for oneself and the social anxiety of facing the world in the first person. However, mastering this new personal logistics is the bravest act of autonomy: it is to claim your freedom and recognize your own value.

Living is not only existing from the couple; this is a spectrum, but it is not everything. Don't expect a breakup or a loss to develop new social skills, to get to know yourself better or get out of your comfort zone.

Don't wait for a divorce to meet you

Dare, even if you are in a relationship, to live moments alone with you: examples

Dining out: Enjoy your own company and the taste of the food without distractions.
Go to the gym: Navigate among varied people and familiarize yourself with the machines to regain control of your physical presence.
Wednesday coffee away from home: A change of routine necessary to break inertia and observe the world from another chair.
Make procedures and arrangements: Take command of the decisions that you previously delegated or shared responsibility.
If your pocket gives you, take a 3-night trip for example: To show you that you are your best guide. challenge after 50 +.
Study: Learn new topics, stay up to date on technology!

These changes provide a new space for the couple by changing the dynamics little by little.

For you single 50 + years old. No one is going to live the life you have left for you!!!

"Inhabiting life is not waiting for someone to accompany you; it is the determination to walk with you until the world stops being a strange place."