Between Us: Growing up now is much more interesting!

At this point in the game, we already know that life is not a straight line. Growing internally after 50 has its art: Some of us no longer move by the approval of others or by meeting the expectations of others; now what rules is our internal fire. Those obstacles that appear are not insurmountable walls, they are rather the "account adjustments" necessary to take weight off the suitcase, release what is no longer useful and live with an authenticity that before, perhaps, we did not allow ourselves.

I share with you what helps me to continue moving forward with a firm step, but above all, with that serenity that has cost us so much to gain.

¿What really moves us now?

When we talk about challenges, we do not mean naive romanticism about the life of a person over 50 years old. We talk about those real obstacles that we sometimes put ourselves or that the environment imposes on us. At our age, the challenges are different: it is the inertia of doing the same thing for decades, they are those fears that still pear up when we want to try something new, or that silent doubt about whether it is "worth it" the effort of change at this stage.

Sometimes we are lazy to get out of what we already know because it is comfortable, even if it no longer fills us. Or we run into people who do not understand why we want to continue moving the board at this point. The first step is to see those brakes as they are, without dramas but with a very clear look, understanding that recognizing them is not weakness, but inhabiting life ... do desires come from the Ego? Or of the Soul?.

Those enemies you know by heart:

·The "then I do it": It's not just laziness, sometimes it's a lack of discipline that focuses on ourselves and not on others.

· External noise: Although we are more seasoned, the fear of other people's judgment still sneaks into our decisions.

· Be our worst judge: That fierce self-criticism that tells us that we should already have everything resolved and does not let us celebrate what we have already achieved.

· The blank compass: The uncertainty of rediscovering what we want to do with our time and our energy now that priorities have changed.

Accepting that these potholes are part of the process allows us to get rid of the pressure and treat ourselves with respect and patience.

Get to work: how to play the game 😅👀?

Overcoming these challenges does not require magic formulas or excessive enthusiasm. It requires a practical, consistent and very realistic approach. Here I leave you what I apply and that you can take to your own ground, at your own pace:

1.Real goals (of which are fulfilled): We are no longer for fanciful goals. It's about defining what you want to achieve today and dividing it into small, logical and executable steps. It is not a speed race; perseverance is our best ally.

2. Clean the environment and choose who you walk with :At this age, time is the most valuable resource. Surrounding yourself with people who add and who understand your need for evolution is vital. If your environment pulls you down or questions your desire to grow, it's time to set clear limits. Autonomy is also about choosing companies well. I recognize today at my age that I don't set limits for many years and I'm working on it 🙏🏻 to do it on time and not fall into the maximum limit that I snatch then I'm already the bad one I don't want to fall in either I feel bad because I set limits and I judge myself for it 😅.

3.Change self-criticism for observation: Instead of punishing yourself for what you didn't do, look at why you stopped. Was it scary? Was it real tiredness? Or is that goal no longer exciting you? Analyzing it as if it were an external project helps you make smarter and less emotional decisions.

4. "The value of "being with me" :It's not about isolation, but about cultivating that personal space where you listen without interference. It is in those moments of chosen loneliness where you really understand what the next step is.

You don't need to make it perfect. You just need not to abandon yourself.

Personal growth has no age. But it does have a condition:

👉 that you decide to keep moving forward, even if it's step by step.

Remember the appointment every Wednesday!!

With love, Isabel Ruiz, Panama, April 22, 2026 🦋🦋🦋